Tuesday 27 February 2018

Our Wedding Day

So, Terry and I have been married for a whole year! After our wedding I intended to do a big blog post sharing lots of photos and details about the day, but life got busy, I got lazy about blogging in general and then too much time had passed for it to even be relevant. But then yesterday was our anniversary and I figured that’s the perfect excuse to finally get this post done! Anyone who knows me well, knows I was never a big ‘wedding person’. I wasn’t fussed on having a wedding at all actually. I would have been happy to go to a court house or elope. The marriage was more important to me than the wedding day, but Terry really wanted a wedding with all of our loved ones, so I was happy to go along with that if it was important to him. And I’m actually SO thankful for the wedding that we did have! It was a very relaxed day, we didn’t follow a lot of traditions and definitely did it our way, and to us, it was perfect. We didn’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen, we didn’t have speeches, I did my own makeup while Mia was napping (and bathed her 10 minutes before we were due to get in the car), and my best friend did my hair at home. My Mum and sister did the flowers, and very early on our wedding day, Mum, my brother Tyler and I were out at the property setting all the flowers up ourselves. We got married on our friend Jim’s beautiful property in Swan Bay, TAS, and we are the only people who have ever been married there, which is pretty special to us. We struggled to find a venue that really worked with the relaxed vibe that we wanted, and that fit into our price range (we chose not to spend big on our wedding- we estimate that it cost maybe $10,000 all up). So we were so thankful to be able to use this gorgeous space and really make it our own. Most of the set up was DIY (almost all of it was done by Terry- including making our bridal table, blackboards and signage, revamping an old bath, making the arbour for our ceremony, making our bridal table and even sewing some cushion covers!), which saved us a lot of money, but did add more stress in the planning and preparation process. It was so satisfying on the day to see everything come together even better than we could have ever imagined, and we are so thankful to both of our families and our friends for all the things they did to help out, and especially to those who travelled to Tassie to share in our day. I have popped some of our favourite photos below, as well as our personal vows to each other.







Terry's Vows:

Jessica,
When I was heading to Jordy n Silky’s house on that first night we met I was pretty nervous to meet you. But as the night went on I knew I liked you, and I loved talking and drinking boxed wine with you all night long.
I felt like I’d found my perfect match,
all our opinions and views were the same, as well as what we wanted with our lives.
Fast forward 5 years and we still have the same views, same opinions and want the same things in our lives.
We have created so many memories already and achieved so much together.
So thank you for being there that night at Jody n Silks.
Thank you for being crazy in all the best ways. Your sense of humour is one of the many things I love most about you, you make me laugh so much and often when you’re not trying to. I feel like no one knows just how funny you really are.
Thank you for being you every second of every day. You are nothing short of perfection.
Thank you for being strong!
When times have been tough, you have been tougher.

Thank you for keeping it all together, every day all the little things you do, they don’t go un noticed.
Thank you for driving me. You make me want to do better and be better.
Thank you for caring. Caring about how my day was, or when I’m sick or just when I’m feeling a little flat and deflated.
One of the things I’m mostly thankful and grateful for is our daughter. Thank you so much for giving us our own little family, she’s a beautiful little girl and I hope she can grow up to be at least half as polite, kind, loving and caring as her mother.
You are an amazing mum and Mia is very lucky to always have you by her side, and so am I.

My promises to you are
I promise to always be there when you need me and even when you don’t.
I promise to back you 100% in everything you do.
I promise to try and make everything easier for you, not harder.
I’ll continue to tell you that your very good looking every day because it’s true.
I promise to bring you wine when the day has been tough.
And I promise to make you cups of tea when you’re feeling sad.
I love you more than anything. I always have and I always will.


My Vows:

Terry. I still remember the very first second I saw you. Within hours, I felt like I’d known you forever. Within days, we were in love. And within weeks we knew that one day, we would get married. It’s taken us five years, but here we are. From that first night, to now, we have been through a lot together. For richer or poorer (mostly poorer), sickness and health. We had a couple of years of you working away, being apart for a month at a time, conducting our relationship via emails and facebook messages. We’ve lived in 6 homes, in 2 states, we’ve had 7 different cars, 12 jobs between us, and I don’t even know how many different hairstyles you’ve had! I still haven’t forgiven you for the time you made me shave your head! But through all of that, our love has never changed. Even in our greatest times of stress or worry, we don’t fight, I can’t think of a time we have ever spoken a mean word to each other. We certainly aren’t perfect, but we are best friends. We respect each other, and we are always considering each other’s feelings in everything that we do. We approach everything as a team, when one of us is feeling low, or broke, or tired, or unsure, the other one steps up. That’s my favourite thing about us.

Today, I want to thank you.
Thank you for staying by my side through all of life’s challenges.
Thank you for loving me exactly as I am, and for never judging me.
For looking after me when I’m sick, for giving me a massage every time I ask.
For laughing with me, and at me.
Thank you for making me cups of tea when I’m sad.
Thank you for always telling me that you think I’m beautiful, even when I had just given birth.
Thank you for being the most amazing father to Mia that I could have ever wished for.
Thank you for just being you. Please don’t ever forget that I love you just as you are.

As we go forward, I promise to continue to love and appreciate you for who you are.
I promise to continue to care for you and cook for you.
I promise to always try and help you see the positive side of everything.
And I promise to never forget how lucky I am to have you.